Stop Making Excuses

Video On How To Stop Making Excuses & Take Personal Responsibility - by Tyrese Gibson

Most people who are going through a rough time in life and it feels like ‘this is how it’s always going to be’ and things will never change… it’s because THEY themselves ARE the negativity they want to get rid of. But they are so full of frustration, low self esteem and anger that any advice or assistance that comes their way they just twist and bend it until it becomes ugly.

The only way to truly rid the negativity from your life is to rid it from YOURSELF.  Changing other people doesn’t work. If you remove the negativity and focus on being a better, kinder, more understanding and patient person… the environment around you automatically changes, the people who are negative in your life… suddenly you don’t relate to them and they naturally weed themselves out of your life.

Real change only happens when YOU change YOU. 

If you are in a terrible relationship and you are blaming your partner for everything wrong in your life, blaming your family, or friends, or your living conditions or environment. If YOU didn’t change, the same dang thing will continue to happen over and over in every new relationship and in every new environment.

Below is a video someone put together to showcase Tyrese Gibson’s speech, which is one of my favorite motivational speeches.

Video Speech To Text

How easy and how convenient is it for us to blame everything and everybody for the things that we have going on in our lives. there IS a such thing as you being a positive and great person with the best of intentions towards everybody, and shit is rough and you just cant get a break. But most of you… most of you are waking up everyday, looking for pain, disfunction, drama, unemployment, being broke, struggling, dropping every excuse in the book about your childhood and the problems and dis-functional that you grew up in, that’s stopping you from becoming successful. you dont like you’re friends – so why’re you still fucking with them? you don’t trust your managers, agents and lawyers so why are they still there? Do you really expect your life and career to be any different from messing with the same things, people and situations? That’s all I’m saying.

Stop being a lazy, bum-ass person that’s full of excuses, sitting around on the pity-party, coming up with every excuse in the world as to why you ain’t winning. YOU are the reason you are not winning. You keep messing with negative, evil and dis-functional people and expecting positive results. It’s time you get off the pity-party. Stop complaining about being out of shape, when you never go to the gym. Stop looking at your stomach when you get out of your shower and complaining about the way you look when you’re eating everything in sight and never going to the gym. You are the reason you look the way you look, you are the reason you’re unemployed, you are the reason why your surroundings are so dis-functional and negative. You could still be in the hood, broken, fucked up and living a peaceful live. It’s a choice.

We are being raised in a generation of people, that come up with every excuse in the book, as to why they are not winning. You have every excuse in the book, why you’re not spending time with your kids. Fathers, I’m talking to you. Because you’re able to create a child, doesn’t mean that you’re a father. It doesn’t mean that you understand the concept of fatherhood.

It’s time to stop coming up with excuses, why 5,6,7 months and even years have went by without you seeing your child. It’s wrong and it’s only the kids that are suffering in the end.

Excuses sound best to the people that’s making them up. You got every excuse in the world, that’s why your shit ain’t moving. That’s why nothing changed and nothing will change, because you have CONVINCED yourself, that everything is wrong, everything is negative and nothing will change – and guess what, it won’t change. Change your mind, and it will change your life. If nothing around you changes, than change the things that are around you.

I’m tired of it. I’m frustrated with the amount of people that are not successful, because they have THOUGHT their way into a depression. You have thought your way into negativity and misery. You have thought your way into holding on to a dude or a girl that you broke up with a year or two ago and you’re still sad and miserable and they had moved on with their life.

It’s all in the mind. Change your mind and it will change your life. You just have to – you just have to WAKE UP. You just have to.. BREAK that negative spirit – you have to break through all of that shit that you’re carrying. I don’t wanna f.. – I don’t feel sorry for you. YOU feel sorry for yourself. That’s the problem. Even when positive people are tryna give you all this good energy, you have tricked your mind to turn every positive thing that they say into something negative. Everytime they say anything to try to motivate you and inspire you, you turn every positive thought, every positive intention, everything that they’re trying to to boost your spirits up, you flip it, shake it, manipulate it and … you.. you are so DETERMINED to be negative and miserable. It’s unbelievable!

..but it’s a new day, .. it’s a new day..

My message isn’t to tear you down and to contribute to your negativity, my intention is just to say: Enough is enough.

God isn’t done with you. God is not done with you. That’s why you’re still here.

..huh.. But I actually have a problem with the fact, that there are people out there that could be more successful, but you have thought your way to depression. You have thought your way into gravitating and moving into the direction of anything and anybody that’s negative. Everything about your life that you decided, that you wanted for yourself, is so negative, that yet you’re expecting to produce positive results.

It’s not gonna happen people.

The outcome of your life and your career is based on the choices that you make. I love all of you. I’m asking that you get off the pity-party and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

For every level there’s another devil, for every LEVEL there’s another DEVIL.

Get off the pity-party. It’s your season. It’s your moment. Right now.